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"My 9-month-old daughter no longer wants to go to her nanny, what to do?" Our specialist, Dr. Béatrice Di Mascio, pediatrician, answers the question of Marie-Alexandra.
The answer of Dr. Béatrice Di Mascio, pediatrician in Paris *
- The crying is a means of communication that allows the baby to express a need, an emotion, a feeling, a discomfort, a pain ... The way it occurs must always question the parents.
- At 9 months, the child goes through a difficult and fundamental passage of his development, called the separation crisis. He realizes that he exists alone, that he is not an integral part of his mother. He defuses. Suddenly, when he is no longer with his mother, he is afraid of never seeing her again. That is why until it reaches the age of 13, 14 months, all the separations will be lived very difficult by the child.
- To help him pass the course, it is necessary to work with the baby the permanence of the object. We hide an object that reappears. The child will understand little by little that when you do not see something or someone, it does not mean that it is forever ... including his mom. QED.
- It takes a little more time, in the morning to drop it at the nanny and do not forget to leave him transitional objects: comforter, pacifier ... And if it is the dad who drops the child, it is even better .
- Nevertheless, even if this course is a must, do not neglect to dig other tracks. To ask if the child is not disturbed by a possible upheaval within the family unit: an illness, a move. The nanny may be less available because she has welcomed a new child or has personal problems. Which could disturb the child. It must inevitably talk with her.
* Author of My child from birth to kindergarten (Albin Michel)
Interview by Frédérique Odasso
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